First off I want to apologize about my absence. I have been busy and unmotivated, and i prefer to write a blog when i feel fired up or motivated. But i am truly sorry.
Now, responsibility thats a good word that people off all ages should learn, and adapt to as they grow older. Now I understand that certain age groups have different levels of responsibility that is expected of that person. What i dont understand is why are most American families neglecting the age of maturity and responsibility? Im not saying drop all aids you give to your child but..why do Americans think babying your child, not giving them more responsibilities is a good thing? They have lived long enough to know that they dont have things given to them..they have to work for it. SO why do they continue to give to their children at all circumstances.
Now let me just say that my parents still do give me things..supply/support me on things, but for the most part..im on my own. And yes I can be spoiled by my mom, like she'll get me a sandwich or get me a drink or do my laundry when im at home..yes i do get spoiled too..but not to the extent im about to share.
I have noticed this lately when talking to friends, and I just am baffled by it. I have talked to some people that they are out of college holding their own jobs, and their parents/grandparents are still paying their cell phones, their car insurance, their gas... hell they are even buying them their cars. I know some people who are of the age of 18 and older and their parents are still paying their gas, car insurance, buying them clothes, buying them the stuff they want in their life and they are NOT required to get a job. I find that a little crazy. I get helping them out..I get helping a 16 year old with gas cuz jobs aren't that great and prevalent for a 16 year old. I get helping a kid out in high school, since they could be involved with sports..but not completely. I get helping out at younger ages..but after high school I think you should start telling the child you need to start buying your own clothes..if you want something like that clothes, shoes, purses, trips with ur friends, outtings with ur friends you need to start putting ur own money towards it.
I will say this again i DO NOT have full responsibility yet. Currently I am living at home going to Penn State working on my second major holding a job and going to be playing basketball for the branch campus I am at. So that means, food is being bought (the food my dad buys for the house), electric bill is being paid, water and sewage are being paid, and since my mom is a house mom she does my laundry. Yes i am spoiled with the laundry thing, but I will add if I want to go out to eat i have to pay for my own, if I want food other than the necessities that are bought normally for the house i need to get them myself. Now I will say that I paid for my car (sisters collectively) i pay for my cellphone bill and phone, I pay for the gas (split each week with Emily) I pay for the car insurance (Again split), I pay for all my clothes, i pay for all my sneakers. I had to pay for the TV in my room..which i may add does not have cable hooked up to, I have to pay for my PS3 and the games and accessories, i have to start paying the co payments for the dr visits and such. I have had to do all this since i was in high school..heck i really dont remember my parnets paying for my jeans and shirts in high school...they paid for my uniform and dress shoes and bball sneakers sicne i went to a Catholic shcool..but anything we wanted outside of education i pay.
I am not saying that parents who do this to their children are bad parents but, the real world will come up on them quick and they will be over whelmed. Im not saying push them out in the street and say here learn responsibility. Gradually give your child more responsibilities, have them pay for things that they are able to pay for. Make them get a job, and just because that child may have a problem/minor issues with some things in life does NOT mean they should have an exception to not getting a job or having more responsibilities.
Maybe im crazy..maybe im way out of line with this more responsibility thing. Maybe I am alone...if you care to weigh in go ahead..but i will say im biased so convincing me the other way may be hard unless there are major circumstances...but i must end this blog to get to my next class...how funny its about adolescents :D
Peace
PS. ITs good to be back :D
