Surface Friends

How well do you really know someone? Like honestly, think about some friends you have. Do you really know them, or do you know the surface them. I was thinking about this the other day, and I came to the conclusion that a lot of my friends (yes I have friends) are surface friends/relationships. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? I believe it depends on the situation. If you don't really have that great of a relationship with this person, like no more of just an acquaintance then its okay to know the surface. But, if its a friend that you consider your self really close to, then I think its more important to have a more in depth friendship, to know what lies beneath the surface.

I am slowly figuring out that some people you know, and have one opinion about are completely different people once you break the surface of a friendship/relationship and become extremely interesting people. I'm not saying that people aren't interesting while having the surface friend, I'm just saying new doors and windows open up about a person that you may never know, and that can be a beautiful thing. The same thing goes for judging people upon meeting them and listening to the first three words out of their mouth, or listening to what others say about a certain person. For example, I work with a guy, who I only ever speak to if we work together. He's a nice guy, quiet, but what I gathered is that hes just a quiet kid in the office that does whatever he wants and thats just it. Well what i found out is that this person is really smart...not saying I thought this guy was dumb, but this guy is really insightful. He has views and opinions that can just blow you out of the water that makes you think is this guy really saying this. On the surface he's quiet in the office..outside the office he wears his baggy sweat and jeans looks really tough and doesn't give a shit. But in reality from getting to know him more than just a guy i work with, hes very interesting. I love having shifts with him, i can learn a lot from him, and i feel that a lot of people we come across are like this..unless you are a particular girl i work with..then you are fucked for life...LOL

There is having a friend, there is knowing someone, then there is really knowing someone. I think its important to really get to know someone, and stop having surface friendships. You never know what kind of conversations, or opinions you have of a person can change once you really get to know them and everyone opens up. Past stories, and events make a person who they are, family help shape that along with society, so why are we only getting to know the person for who they want people to see. There is a world of difference of a person than what they show you, and whats on the surface. So I challenge you, dont just settle for the surface bull shit...dig deeper, you may see a completely different person and you may just be more intrigued than you ever thought possible.

Peace!