Surface Friends

How well do you really know someone? Like honestly, think about some friends you have. Do you really know them, or do you know the surface them. I was thinking about this the other day, and I came to the conclusion that a lot of my friends (yes I have friends) are surface friends/relationships. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? I believe it depends on the situation. If you don't really have that great of a relationship with this person, like no more of just an acquaintance then its okay to know the surface. But, if its a friend that you consider your self really close to, then I think its more important to have a more in depth friendship, to know what lies beneath the surface.

I am slowly figuring out that some people you know, and have one opinion about are completely different people once you break the surface of a friendship/relationship and become extremely interesting people. I'm not saying that people aren't interesting while having the surface friend, I'm just saying new doors and windows open up about a person that you may never know, and that can be a beautiful thing. The same thing goes for judging people upon meeting them and listening to the first three words out of their mouth, or listening to what others say about a certain person. For example, I work with a guy, who I only ever speak to if we work together. He's a nice guy, quiet, but what I gathered is that hes just a quiet kid in the office that does whatever he wants and thats just it. Well what i found out is that this person is really smart...not saying I thought this guy was dumb, but this guy is really insightful. He has views and opinions that can just blow you out of the water that makes you think is this guy really saying this. On the surface he's quiet in the office..outside the office he wears his baggy sweat and jeans looks really tough and doesn't give a shit. But in reality from getting to know him more than just a guy i work with, hes very interesting. I love having shifts with him, i can learn a lot from him, and i feel that a lot of people we come across are like this..unless you are a particular girl i work with..then you are fucked for life...LOL

There is having a friend, there is knowing someone, then there is really knowing someone. I think its important to really get to know someone, and stop having surface friendships. You never know what kind of conversations, or opinions you have of a person can change once you really get to know them and everyone opens up. Past stories, and events make a person who they are, family help shape that along with society, so why are we only getting to know the person for who they want people to see. There is a world of difference of a person than what they show you, and whats on the surface. So I challenge you, dont just settle for the surface bull shit...dig deeper, you may see a completely different person and you may just be more intrigued than you ever thought possible.

Peace!

Life lessons in a movie

Recently, I went to see a movie called Bridesmaids. It was hilarious, and well worth my time, so much matter of fact that when it comes out I'm pretty sure I am purchasing this. Through all of the humor, friendships, adventures, and love that took place during this movie, a particular line really grabbed my attention. A line that stuck home with me, and I'm sure with a lot of others it can too. The line went a little something like this, "We are our own problem, and we can be our own solution too." I don't know about you, but that simple line screams a shit ton of truth. Don't worry I'm not going to ruin anything of this movie for those of you who are going to watch it, but this line happens when the main character feels she completely lost out on everything; her best friend, life, and love. Then another character in the movie comes by to slap some sense in her, and drops this line.

Too many times do people sit and wallow in their own failures, and own let downs in life, thinking about everything that went wrong, how its never going to be okay, and about all the other factors that caused this. The blame is ultimately on us, but its a lot easier to push our problems, our temporary failures and set backs on everything else but the one person they stem from....our self. Its true, we are our own problem and we sure as hell can be our own solution. We need to step up and tackle these problems head on, and become the solution that we need to see, the solution that we are capable of doing, and the solution that will make life better for us and those around us.

Its time to make that change, and turn everything else around. Just like the movie, maybe we need someone to push us around so we have to start fighting back for our life, instead of sitting there watching everything fall around us. Lets start to be our own solution! TODAY, lets start the fight for our life back. After all we deserve it, and we can only be as strong as the weakest link, and right now the weakest link seems to be our self.

Peace

Patience

Its true what they say, Patience is a virtue. A virtue that I have in most instances, but noticed I lack completely in other instances. There are moments in time when, the impossible seem so out of reach and the possible is just in front of our face and we cannot reach out and grab it. How does one grasp that concept of not being able to accomplish or have what they want. We spend our whole life plotting out story lines for our self that when the time comes, or we find a piece of the puzzle of life that some how our thoughts and plan just seem not to be the same shape as the puzzle piece anymore. A lot of people, including myself, constantly live their life in the what if stage, while others are able to live in the this is now stage. What keeps us from falling into the what if, and start to live in the now...of course within reason..remember my last blog about keeping your priorities straight..that's still IMPORTANT.

It's kind of crazy when you think about it, that we live in a society where our happiness and dreams get pushed aside for being responsible and making money. When did our happiness and our dreams become a back burner thought? I find it particularly sad that our society isn't about happiness, but about what we should be doing. Just because we want this, and this is our dream we shouldn't do it, we should do this other thing that we really have no desire to do. We should do it because this is what is right, this is what will keep our feet on the ground, and everyone happy. Everyone though? What about the person that is doing this, are they happy? Is this what they want, to push their dreams aside to make everyone else happy? I feel that we need to make enemies in our life, especially when it comes to finding our true happiness. I know though, words are a hell of a lot easier said then done. Trust me I know.

We spend our whole life doing whats right, that when our dream comes along we don't even notice it, we let it blow right past us in the breeze. We let what should be, block happiness out...block it out so far that we don't even recognize it anymore. Maybe, we should all just work on that. Just a thought tho. Oh and another thing, when you find something amazing and you can't get to it..even though its right there..it really really really really fucking sucks. Just saying.

Peace

Kate!

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Priorities

I've been having this discussion with a lot of people, so today it only seem logical for me to blog about priorities. First off, I am a person who needs to have a plan. I really don't like to do things sporadically, I need to have some outline to follow. I don't have to follow it perfectly, but I need to have some sort of plan. Second, and my family can attest to this, but I do NOT like to spend money. Matter of fact I'm the go to person when someone needs to borrow money. With those things being said, it really bothers me when people do things when they know they do not have the funds, or motives to do such things.

How many times have you went to a store, looked at something, knew you really didn't need it, nor do you have/should spend your money on it? We have all done it, even I, miserly Elizabeth has done this. There is a difference though in doing this sometimes, to doing it often. Why do some feel the need to constantly spend money they do not have, and why do they feel that they cannot wait to get something? I don't know maybe its just me, but I cannot and will not put myself in the position where I have to choose between food, clothing, shelter, or any other basic necessities of life. If you want something and you are meant to have it, keep it, love it etc, then you can wait till you have your feet on the ground to get it. That's just my opinion though. I just don't get it, it scares the Bejesus out of me, and I don't understand why others feel its okay to worry about if they will have food for tomorrow, or be able to pay electric bill, or pay cell phone bills, to put gas in their car, to do anything like. Im not saying people who don't have jobs and are using every penny to make things legitimately work. I'm talking about people who do stupid things with their money, because they feel the need to do things now.

People need to stop living in I need it now, whatever it may be, that great shirt, those cute shoes, that perfect tv, that wedding of your dreams..anything, and start thinking about the big picture. Yes, living in the now can be great, you are grabbing life by its balls and having the time of your life, but to me you need to look at the big picture. People need to see the obstacles that can await them if they become to free spirited with their possessions and money. It can come back and bite you in the ass..and its sad to say that I have witnessed this. So correct me if im wrong about this whole thing..but this is my take on it. I guess this is it for now

peace!